October 10, 2026 · Voice

My Answer to "What Are You Women Still Complaining About?"

"I don't understand why you're doing this. Have you ever been hurt by any men?"

A man came up to my market booth, looked at my pieces, and asked me this question. There was this disbelief on his face, with a tone that was literally saying, "I don't get what the fuck you women are still complaining about or protesting for."

It's the typical bullshit question men love to throw at feminists, not surprising at all.

As a woman and an owner of a feminist brand, here's my answer:

Because we're still living in a fucked-up patriarchal world where women still don't feel safe or respected.

I was born in China during the One-Child Policy era. To make sure the "one child" was a SON, parents stopped at nothing to kill their daughters through abortion, infanticide, abandonment, or raising girls in abuse, neglect, and oppression. And it's still happening today in many places.

I got lucky just to be born and grow up to who I am today.

But so many girls are not. Countless female fetuses were aborted the moment a scan revealed their sex. Newborn girls were abandoned, brutalized, and discarded in fucked-up ways you can't even imagine. They would do this again and again till they have a boy or the mother cannot carry babies anymore. In many places, it's still happening today.

Many of us were raised to be unpaid maids and breeding machines since we were little.

My brother was never nagged to learn how to cook, do laundry, or serve the family; I was. My brother was never repeatedly policed on his behavior or posture, but I was told to "BEHAVE LIKE A GIRL." I was expected to just marry a good husband, while my brother was expected to succeed.

Relatives didn't even bother remembering my name, calling me my brother's name instead, because only boys were worth remembering. And because only men get listed in the family tree, women aren't even worth a damn name on that paper.

When girls are murdered before they're even born and abused after, don't ask me why we are still fighting for women's rights. For many of us, feminism is literally a matter of life and death.

Now, growing up, people may say: "Well, you grew up healthy and made it out. The adult world is equal enough now, what the hell are you still complaining about?"

Really?

In China, tens of thousands of girls and women are trafficked every single year, raped, forced to marry their buyers, or sold into prostitution. They are treated like nothing more than walking vaginas and uteruses, chained, beaten, and abused like livestock. (The chained woman case exposed in Xuzhou in early 2022.)

This could happen to any of us. No woman is safe.

And it's not just there. In Canada: until 1929, Canadian law did not legally recognize women as "persons." In 2025, there were 37,278 police-reported sexual assaults, one every 14 minutes on record. The average hourly gender wage gap sat at 12%.

Shits are still happening worldwide. An Iranian singer and her team were sentenced to 74 lashes just for performing without a hijab. And the recent Cornell 7, those men who gang raped a young woman walk away without a single fucking consequence. And there are more.

In a world that systematically protects male abusers, there are still people who think fighting for women's rights is a fucking joke.

If you ask what motivated us to do this?

Anger. Pure, unadulterated rage.

I have zero problem admitting that the entire drive, inspiration, and energy behind this brand come from pure, unadulterated rage. Shits keep happening to women. Countless times, I'm left crying, grieving and shivering.

Screaming and expressing it is the only way to vent this fire, but even that is not enough.

I want more women to know they are seen, they are supported, and they can keep speaking up and fighting without shame, so that we can live with dignity.

We rise by lifting each other. We won't shut down our voices just because someone feels offended. In a world that wants us to quiet, we choose to yell. We'll serve this purpose as long as it exists, and we'll keep staying loud with pride.

Because we're still living in a fucked-up patriarchal world where women still don't feel safe or respected.